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hey this is Leo for actualised org and in this video we're going to talk about self help ok let's talk about self help and I love this topic because I love self help and why do I love self oh why why am I so passionate about it I hope that I can transfer some of my passion about self help to you because I think that this is one of the most powerful ideas out there for improving the quality of your life is self help I'm honestly so passionate about it because of the effect of it that I've seen on my own life I mean I've proved it to myself and you can't have to go through a process yourself to prove to yourself that self help is something that can be really really valuable to you and really really transform your life in amazing ways the reason that I love sub help is because to me it is the ultimate way to improve life and to me it's very obvious that if I see a tool that I can use in order to improve my own life and to get everything that I want from life get all the fulfillment that I want the peace of mind the financial success that I want the relationship success that I want the sex that I want the the body that I want the fitness level that I want the health that I want I want to do whatever it takes to get that because to me when I'm firing on all cylinders and I have all those elements in place in my life and they're all doing great then I'm feeling awesome and I'm feeling like I'm living to my fullest potential and I'm excited and I'm happy and I'm calm and I mean what else what else do I want from life that's really all I want is I want to be fulfilled I want to be content I want to be con I want to be secure and I want to be out there giving my gifts and doing the best that I can be doing and living the best kind of life that I could be living and of course to do that requires something more than what the average person does the average person I would say goes through life and they do the things that society kind of makes a parent and makes easy and maybe even makes mandatory for you to do what does that mean that means you go to school that means you go to college that means you go and you get married after that you get a job and then you save up some money and then you try to retire and you try to live healthy and done whatever and then try to raise a family and that's kind of how life flows and along the way you learn a lot of lessons because you can't go through that whole process to not learn stuff but I think that the quality of life that the average person has in this country is still not nearly even 5% of what it could be not even 5% of what it could be and so when I realized that and I saw that there are books and seminars and ideas and tools and information out there that can make the difference between living a life that's 5% of my abilities and 99% of my abilities then I'm like wow ok I'm on board I don't care what it takes I'm going to study this stuff this stuff is awesome this stuff can potentially do that there's stuff out there that can potentially transform my life so much that I can't even recognize where I came from there's information out there that can completely revolutionize how I see the whole world my model of reality make me successful make me good in relationships make me good in areas of fitness and nutrition like there's information out there that can do that like wow that's amazing to me that's amazing because I can easily imagine a universe or a world where that's not the case I can easily imagine a universe where you're born and then you grow up and then you're stuck and you can't change and the conditions that you were raised in are the ones that are now going to be guiding your entire life and that you can't do anything up to improve your money situation you just have as much money as you always had you can't do anything to improve your health you just are the way that you were you can't do anything to really change your relationships those are just going to go in the same way that they've been going and probably not very good in a dysfunctional sort of way and you can't really recreate your career into a really thriving we're either you're just kind of stuck at that original job that you got to me that's like damn I could easily imagine a universe that was like that and in fact most people in the world live their lives as though the world worked this way as though this was reality they feel stuck in one or more of these areas and I was like that too and I still am that way is certain respect in areas of my life not in any big areas I mean I study this stuff so much I process so much self-help material that it's basically impossible for me to now go back and to play the victim in in any major area of life but I still find myself playing a minor victim in little parts of life but even that I intend to basically burn out of my system through self-help so this is ultimately why self-help is so cool because everything that you want from your life whether it's more money more women more men better relationships a marriage happiness success fulfillment Fame recognition more knowledge more peace of mind less stress more health all of that is yours for the having it's all yours for the taking you can take it you can have it but you are gonna have to do some work and that work is going to be called self-help self-help is really a movement that started really started to thrive in the last 50 years that really took off has been popularized by a lot of big-name self-help gurus out there people like Tony Robbins and Jim Rohn and Brian Tracy and Zig Ziglar and just all the other big-name people out there who are offering advice to ordinary folk on how to live their lives right even someone like Oprah Winfrey I mean what is she doing she's doing self-help she's showing you how to improve your life in all these different ways and on the surface you can see like self-help oh that's so corny that's so silly so stupid that is one of the worst mindsets that you can have because if you think that self-help is silly or somehow it's just blown up by the media or somehow it's just positive thinking and that all self-help is is just positive thinking and that it's just overblown through advertising and it doesn't actually work you can't actually transform your entire life like those are just rare examples of freak accidents you can't actually lose a lot of weight you can't actually earn millions of dollars you can't actually start an amazing business you can't actually create an awesome family you can't actually change how your relationships work Wow if you think that if that's true for you then you are so so so stuck and what's even worse is that not only are you stuck but you've taken one of the only tools that are out there self-help you've taken this tool and you've basically thrown it aside and you've discounted it which is Wow to me that's like I feel very sorry for you because you have thrown away so much you basically what you've done is you've thrown away literally your entire life you throw an own throwing away all of your potential in life when you hold that mindset so that's a really dangerous one watch out what I love about self-help is that there are books out there there are information products out there there are CDs there are seminars there are videos there are YouTube videos there are websites there are blogs there are magazines there are mentors there are people that can help you to figure all this stuff out it's out there and most of it is relatively inexpensive I mean there could be expensed with self-help some of these CD products are expensive sometimes I got to spend some money on books I mean I've literally spent thousands of dollars on books thousands of dollars on books seminars trainings video products I spent thousands of dollars on that because to me it's worth it I don't know what else I could be pouring my money into in life that's more valuable than this because here's how I think about it is that if I read a bunch of books and I go to a bunch of seminars and I talk with a bunch of successful people that I'm going to get the wisdom that I need and once I know and I have the beliefs and the mindsets and the tools and the techniques that I know I need then I can create any kind of life that I want and to me that's just like that's like wow this is the foundation of it all and sometimes you can get discouraged because you read a book you go to a seminar and it doesn't quite click for you it doesn't quite give you the promised results a lot of times this stuff is a little bit overhyped a little bit over advertised but that's just in the short room not in the long run what I find with self-help is that this is something you have to kind of become a hobbyist in become a self-help junkie that's what I did I mean I love doing this stuff I love reading I love reading about self-help even if I don't get paid for it even if it's not part of my job I mean I started off and sort of studying self-help for years before I really made it profession of it and I don't think people necessarily need to make profession of it you can just read self-help again a lot of amazing nuggets to just help you out in the everyday things that you're doing in your life the business that you're running the families you've got the relationship that you're in the health routine that you're trying to get established whatever you don't have to become a self-help guru to start to get some of the benefits of this stuff but you do have to start to build up a foundation and part of the trick with beginning self-help is that you have to work a little bit at the beginning to start to build up a foundation because what people tend to do is instead of building a foundation they just try to go and solve a problem and they think that well I've got this one one thorny problem if I could just fix that one problem that I've got for example if I could just make my marriage run smoother then that's it I don't I don't need this self-help stuff it's stupid I just I'm doing what if I want a technique that'll help me fix my marriage or technique they'll help me attract that girl in class that I really like or a technique that will help me just overcome this problem that I'm having with my business partner just my business partner we're not getting along something there is going bad or my money situation I just don't have enough money if I could just pay my bill tonight if I could just pay the bill by the end of this month then I'm gonna be happy well that is a short bonded way to look at your life at a short minded way to look at self-help I mean maybe you can get a technique or tip here or there that will help you with that stuff but it's not going to create that awesome foundation for creating extraordinary life to do that I find that you need to become a little bit more of a student not just a technique seeker but a student start to read multiple books start to bind to the idea that wisdom and knowledge is valuable and important in the long run because the knowledge and wisdom that you accumulate right now even from this one video that I'm that I'm throwing at you here that you're watching that's going to be knowledge that's going to stick around for the rest of your life and 20 years from now you might remember this video and this video might get you to go out there and buy an extra self-help book or it might make it get you to go out there and go go see a seminar with somebody like Tony Robbins or go and maybe hire a coach or maybe just go and you know have a mentor who will mentor you for free find a mentor there many mentors out there in the world or it'll just get you to already pick up that book that's already on your bookshelf without having to buy anything just pick up the book that's already there and read it one more time study it take some notes on it maybe refresh your memory right that's going to be the power that's the power of knowledge is that it keeps coming back and paying dividends year after year after year after year after year it's amazing because the investment you make right now of reading a book sure it's a little bit painful you'd rather go and party with friends or watch some television that's more convenient understand I do that too but the investment you make for example in reading a book that investment will stick around for the rest of your life and what happens is that when you make a series of these investments if you just read one book I mean they'll be nice but what happens is that when you start to read many books start to attend several seminars and you start to really get involved with self helps really studying this stuff then it like builds and builds and builds and after a while it's almost like if you were managing a portfolio of stocks you know if you just have ten thousand dollars with a stock that's not really a lot it's not going to do much for you but when you get for example ten million dollars worth of stock then just the the dividend payments every quarter on that 10 million dollars is going to be enough to basically live off of and you can quit your day job I mean that's kind of like what it is with self-help is that you start to build up and build up and build up and after a while it reaches a critical mass it reaches this critical mass where you start to see dividends paying out disproportionate to the amount of investment that you've made all along the way and then you see that it's going to keep paying out more and more and more and it's like oh my god this is too good to be true I can't believe that this is actually possible in in our universe it's literally too good to be true but it does take that initial building up of that critical mass and so that means that the first year or two of self-help might be a little bit slow for you we have to trust that this wisdom will start to kick in and that right now if you're reading a book and you're kind of slipping up and you're not getting that the results you want or maybe you watch some of my videos and you follow along with my videos and you're like saying yourself yes these videos are awesome but then I go out I try some of this positive thinking stuff right try some affirmations or I do some technique here and it doesn't really seem to change my life too much yes that can be that can be the case but that's only because you've been doing it for a very short period of time if you study this stuff and you actually practice it and you kind of stick with it for a couple of years you're going to start to see that there's really something here and you're going to start to build up something extremely powerful you're going to create that foundation of success for you from which everything else can be rising out of you're literally going to create a foundation for the skyscraper that's going to be your whole life and every aspect of your life can become extraordinary because you're gonna have the wisdom and the know-how and the self-control that you need to help yourself out of any problem in any situation that you've got in life it's really quite amazing so this is where I'm going to wrap it up in short what I'm going to say is that actual ways to do self help let's summarize 1 reading books 2 attending seminars 3 buying and listening to products video and audio products I can't recommend them enough they're amazing for studying actually taking time throughout your day to sit down and not just read this stuff or go to a seminar but then actually study it process it review your notes take notes ok what what's taxed how about introspection actually sitting down and thinking about this stuff maybe the shower or while you're on your way to work we're actually dedicating a block of time like a half an hour to sit and introspect about this stuff I can't even articulate the benefits that that will have for you if you just make a habit of that how about journaling journaling is really really powerful as a self help technique meditation meditation is also an extremely simple a very very very powerful habit to build and it's one of the most effective ways of doing self-help coaching coaching is also great I am a life coach I pitch my own services of course if you want you can use me but go ahead and use any other coach you want doesn't really matter coaching can be a really really powerful way to break through some sort of block that's holding you back so whether it's a money problem that you've got or you've got some really serious problems your relationship that's about to crumble or you can't hold together your current career or the career that you've got going for you isn't what you really want to be doing coaching can be really good for tackling one of those issues and helping you bust through it so that it's never going to be another issue for you in your whole life so that can pay big dividends even though coaching can be a bit pricey because it's the unperson to person one-on-one so there's all that and then of course you have to actually go out and take action pushing your comfort zone the bottom line of how you do self-help is that you push your comfort zone in any area of life that you want to get better at when you push your comfort zone there's going to be payoff from that mental payoff there's going to be learning learning is going to be happening wisdom is going to be created so not only do you have to study this stuff but they have to guy should go out there and ply it you have to practice it and really start pushing your comfort zone going in and leaning into your fear whatever it is that you fear start doing those things the more you do those the more lessons you learn the more self-developed you become and the better able to to help yourself in the future because when the new problem comes up and a lot of times life is all about just problems recurring and recurring recurring it's really nice to be able to solve that problem once and for all by yourself and then to be able to help yourself through all the same problems that will be coming up for you because what you're going to notice when you're doing a lot of self-help is that there are some very common threads between all the problems in life and then actually when you get to the very core of them and you break them down at the root and you really understand them and solve them at their root then it's like a cascade effect all of a sudden so many different seemingly unrelated parts of your life and problems in your life become automatically solved because you really solve them at the root you've identified the root of the problem alright this is Leo I'm signing off please post me your comments down below like this and share this with a friend if you would throw it up on Facebook get some of the people to see this stuff get people more involved with self-help and then of course come check out actualize org where we are all about self help sign up to our free 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